Should this relationship just be ended?

[Fabulosity]

^ I just wanted to say that the time invested shouldn't hold you back from doing what truly makes you happy, as well as how to explain to family/friends. Those take a back seat to what matters most- you.

[Monster]

First of all, until you're like 25+, you really don't know what love is....

As for your relationship, mentioning about breaking up to other folks and talking about hooking up with others or whatnot... your relationship is probably already over. Tack on that you're very insecure that you decided to violate his privacy....

The best thing you both should do is break things off. Not because "he's a jerk... yadda yadda yadda...." it's just simply you two seem to lack compatibility, maturity and/or the relationship have just gone stale.

Just move on.

thanks for all the good opinions and your support... it made me think about all the options i have!!

to clarify.. we are both the same age.. we are 24.. going to be 25 this coming year.... that's why i believe all this drama is because he is still very immature and when we even argue about stuff he is the type to run away from problems... it's very hard to communicate with him.. since he shuts down... it's definitely his age that makes him sooo immature and disrespectful to me..

i actually just had an argument with him about this incident again today and he said... he was joking and they are 12 year friends and they joke about stuff like this... i told him if he didn't feel deeply about it.. he wouldn't have said anything that would hurt me soo very much... he did say sorry... and that he wouldn't do it again.... and he had nothing more to say.... i told him that if he really loved me... he would never joke about something sooo hurtful and disrespectful to me... then he said he didn't think anything of it coz it wasn't something that was true....... the only problem i have is.. that i duno if i can get past this... and whether i can believe his explanation!!! i feel it will continue to linger in my mind.... (as everyone else has noticed would happen too)..... the worst is... he can't explain for his actions.. and when i confronted him about what he was thinking when he was talking about this.. he said he wasn't thinking anything at all!!! it seems sooo immature to me...

i'm definitely am thinking about just breaking up with the guy....

someone commented that i should go to vegas and see what happens.. i think i will do that... since our trip is (unfortunately) non-refundable.. and i don't know who i can take to replace him in such a short time.... plus i do still feel so deely about him... that's why i'm really scared to break out of this relationship.. i feel like i've invested a lot into this guy... especially in aspects of making him part of my family... i wouldn't know how to explain to my family and relatives....

wanted to ask if there are any guy opinions to this.. it seems like mostly women replied... and the only reply that seemed more guy like was the one that mentioned it being guy talk and not to think too much about it.... is there any guy thoughts on this incident???

If you want a guy opinion, then here you go:

I would wait. Go to Vegas and have fun but also observe him and see what happens. I do agree to some extent about this being guy talk. Guys do talk like this about other women and I know a lot of my buddies who do this. But, they deeply love their gf as well. Also, it could be because maybe you pissed him off or something and he said those things in spite of anger (even though it doesn't justify it). You should ask him. I think the Vegas trip will be perfect.

If he's still being a d*ck to you and saying these things or does something in Vegas, then I'd say end it.

[honeyybee]

^ I just wanted to say that the time invested shouldn't hold you back from doing what truly makes you happy, as well as how to explain to family/friends. Those take a back seat to what matters most- you.

+ 1 Totally agree.

[c4dm]

Good luck!!

Actions speak louder than words!!!!!!!!

[momo_26]

That's easy.

DUMP HIM!

Seriously, i know how you feel..and im sure other girls can agree.
You probably love him and feel like he's the best thing that ever happen to you..BUT i can guarantee you this, that you will find someone better...even if you don't think so at the moment.
Even if it was a joke (which i don't think it was), what kinda boyfriend would say that about his gf?
Don't waste anymore time with this guy.

[BUNT]

yah time to let him go

[princessa.xo]

hun, get rid of him ASAP. what a loser.

[Kilo]

being a guy and reading that id say hes a dick. but thats as a third party view. i've read it again and kinda placed myself in your boyfriends shoes and thought to myself... shit i have done something like this before but not to that extreme.

you have to take into account as to what his friend has said and then your boyfriends reply. its a possibility hes trying to "top" his friends situation or questions. i know alot of guys including myself that do this... its something like "oh dude i drank like this many shots and danced with this many girls last night" and the reply would be like "thats cool thats cool... i drank this many BOTTLES and GRINDED with this many girls got all their NUMBERS and took the hottest one home."

in the end some suggestions posted like, "go on a break" is a good idea. its true, alot of us dick heads take things for granted and when its gone we miss it and want it back.

I could easily say that when i want a girl... id do anything to have her and when i have her i wouldnt do as much as i did when i wanted her. but when she leaves i regret and want her back. its generally the case for alot of people guys and girls alike but not everyone is like that.

in his eyes maybe you are crazy, maybe youre too clingy, maybe hes simply bored of you (not saying he is) but the fact that he said "he said stuff about how he was in the long run with me and that it's worth.. since he didn't know if my dad would leave me with his money and the house.............. " is questionable....

its your call. do you believe him? is your heart telling you what you want to hear or telling you the truth? in the end i hope you make the right decision and stick with it. dont go back and say im sorry baby i want you back.... stand firm you learn from your relationships. i have...

[c4dm]

Stop bumping old threads