Controlling, immature guy or am I just insensitive?

So I've been attempting to work things out with my bf after months of arguements and a completely unhealthy way of dealing with things (mostly on his part) but i'm not sure how to go about this certain issue...

First off before I mention what's actually getting on my nerves I have to explain that my parents hate my bf's guts because he's mistreated me (not physical abuse but maybe verbally and mentally) so I can't tell them I'm seeing him because they think we've broken up but I have a feeling they know he's still in my life. I basically have to lie to them about where I'm going which I hate but I've been trying to make them forgive and forget the past despite how difficult it is.

Anyways, onto the issue.. whenever my bf wants to hang out and I simply say no I can't because I'm tired from work or no I can't because I have no excuse to get out of the house without getting into a heated arguement with my parents. He then gets super angry and starts accusing me of not wanting to see him as much as he wants to see me and a whole bunch of other stuff which isn't true, I just have to figure out a solution with my parents first and foremost.

It's not like I DON'T see him at all, I just don't see him as much as before. I always compromise and say I'll see him the next day or on my day off which is a day away and he just doesn't like it cause it's not HIS way or when HE wants it.

Anyways.. I apologize for the length of this thread but I'm just not sure what to do anymore, any thoughts or opinions would be great xDD

are you in highschool?

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Yep, we need the answer to that before we can dispense the proper response.

i think your bf is acting like a little bitch. oh & the high school thing could matter too

No, he's 23 and I'm 18. I graduated this year but i'm not some highschool chick, which is why I decided to move up in the age ladder when it came to my partner (nothing past 25 however xD)

Most guys are still kids even after turning an adult. 25 is generally the age were guys "smarten up", but as we all know, that's not necessarily the case.

Seeing each other must be very important to him, thus he's not doing anything wrong by wanting to see you all the time. That being said, arguing often is never good. A little fight here and there is normal, but not if it's like a daily or weekly thing.

Since it seems that your bf mistreats you (plus the arguing factor), I say it's best to just give up on this relationship. I'm all for trying to work things out, but after a while, you realize it's easier (and kinder for both side) to just pick up and leave.

From what I know reading the post, I say leave the guy.

You've already said that he's verbally and mentally mistreated you and it seems to still be happening given that he seems get so angry and accusatory when you say no. When someone is already showing that level of controlling behaviour early on, it usually just gets worse from there.

There are times when one party feels like they are more invested than the other. That's pretty normal and arguments arise from that but when it gets to the point where one is making the other feel guilty all time or is verbally/physically abusing them because of it, then that's never ok. Unfortunately, I've seen friends and even a relative go through an abusive relationship and your post raises red flags to me cause it starts out like your story... so my advice, listen to your parents and just drop it now. Like festealth said, it looks like a case where it's just better to pick up and leave.

If you think he's mistreated you then he definitely has. Somewhere in your head, you know it would be better to break off the relationship. However, by how you described him to be, try to do it gently or maybe take a bit of a break off for a few months and see how it goes later.

Talk to him about it first though, make sure he understands that it's too hard to make the relationship work the way it is now. It's hard to juggle school, work, friends and especially a relationship. If he's going to accuse you of not wanting to see him anymore, then is it really worth it to be with someone who doesn't just want but has to need your affection all the time? Don't let him make you choose which is more important because of all things, you yourself should always be more important than anyone.

Right now my boyfriend is busy with school and work and helping his dad out with chores and other stuff at home whereas I haven't been that busy with anything, so I understand how it feels not to be able to see each other as much as we used to but it doesn't mean I have to act like how your boyfriend is acting. I understand how tiring a schedule like that is and it might even be suffocating but I'm just putting my energy into other things and supporting him as much as I can.

I think the age gap lets him think its okay to treat you like a kid, but you're an adult! Honestly he should be grateful that you're even willing to accommodate him, not demand to see you, and he seems like he isn't taking your situation seriously.